John 11:20-21 Then Martha, as soon as she heard that Jesus was coming, went and met Him, but Mary was sitting in the house. Then Martha said to Jesus, "Lord, if You had been here, my brother would not have died."
We can quite easily imagine the disappointment of Mary and Martha when Jesus did not come to Bethany immediately to heal their brother Lazarus and keep him from dying.
They knew that Jesus had the power to prevent their brother’s death, and they had made their request respectfully, as between close friends. But their initial hopes were dashed.
Though He ended up doing a greater thing, Jesus did not do what they had first asked.
This kind of disappointment is sinful because it’s selfish and demanding. We resent that we didn’t receive something in our way, and in our timing. Or we’re shocked when our plans don’t work out. Or we question God’s goodness. Or we wonder whether there’s any point in praying in the future. These kinds of thoughts show a distinct lack of faith in God’s Word and His ability.
But there is another kind of disappointment, and this is nothing more than the sincere brokenness of heart that comes from a desire that God seems to have left unfulfilled for the time being. In Gethsemane, was Jesus 'disappointed' when God did not seem to 'hear' His plea to be spared from the cross? God never says no to any honourable request.
Paul says in 2 Cor 1:19-20 For the Son of God, Jesus Christ, who was preached among you by us, even by me and Silvanus and Timothy, was not yea and nay, but in him was "yes".
20 For all the promises of God in him are "yes, and in him Amen, unto the glory of God by us."
But the key is our sincerity in wanting the Lord’s will to be done. If that’s what we desire, then we can be sure our sincere desires will never be disappointed!